The Art of Flirting and Seduction in Long-Term Relationships
Flirty isn’t superficial and silly. It’s not only for high school girls with their fluttery, batting eyelashes. Flirty and seduction is essential for a long-term relationship to continue the test of time.
Sex and sexual wellness begin long before one enters the bedroom. When our founder, Sara, designed our Intimacy Serum, she knew that it had to be part of the flirty seduction process or else the clinical act of applying lube was just an awkward halting of the love flow.
Let’s face it, the overall feeling of being beloved is a culmination of a whole lot of smaller things–the seductive glances, the secret smiles you share with your partner, the suggestive jokes and the soft brushes up against each other’s…more sensitive areas. All of this anticipation and the slow, sensual build-up created by flirting with your man is electrifying.
Ok, so we know that flirting is very important. But how do you get back to doing it again? How do you actually re-learn the art of flirting and teasing? Read on, Lady.
The Big Benefits of Flirting
Flirting is often associated with the beginning stages of a romantic relationship. Remember that feeling when he told you for the first time how pretty you are? Or when your hands first brushed up against each other? What about when he finally asked you out on your first date? HELLO, BUTTERFLIES!
Flirting was easy and came naturally in those early days, but it waned over time as jobs and children and getting dinner on the table took over your priorities. However, it doesn’t have to be a thing of the past.
Just like we take care of our wrinkles with Botox and our graying hair with salon appointments, your romance can stay vibrant with a little effort and energy.
That energy and effort are worth it because flirting is a powerful tool for building intimacy in your relationship. When you flirt with your partner, you are showing them that you still find them attractive and desirable. This can help to boost their self-esteem and make them feel more connected to you.
By making an effort to flirt with your partner regularly, you can create a deeper sense of intimacy and strengthen your emotional bond. So get ready, it’s time to flirt.
Simple Flirts for Your Partner
Flirting with your partner is a great way to keep that sometimes elusive spark alive in your relationship (or reignite a flame that’s been extinguished for a while). Try these simple flirts:
Leave a love note for him to find that says something suggestive
Send a playful text or sext (which we’ve got a guide for)
Touch him
Tease him about something sexy
Flirty Body Language Looks Like This
Body language is a powerful tool when it comes to teasing your partner. Give these a try:
Look directly into his eyes (and go ahead—flutter those lashes from time to time)
Smirk
Smile!
Lick or bite your lips
Nod your head
Lift your eyebrows as if you were saying “oh, really, baby?”
Toss your hair
Lean in close when you speak and even closer when he’s talking to show him you’re interested
All these subtle touches create intimacy and desire. You wouldn’t express these gestures toward your kid’s swimming coach or your pastor. No way! They’re reserved for your lover, so use them with your lover.
Keep the Element of Surprise
Routines are not sexy. You gotta shake those up in order to infuse some sexiness into your life. The best way to do that? Simply do something outside of your normal, day-to-day routine and weekly to-do list.
Put a note in his lunch box. Bring him breakfast in bed (bonus points if you’re wearing next-to-nothing). Hide your panties in his pocket.
Plan an unexpected date night experience, something he would love (even if getting a Brazilian wax sounds like a better time to you). Go hit golf balls. Do a whiskey tasting. Eat burgers at a dive bar. Watch a game on TV. Test drive sports cars. Initiate a sex date (our Gift Sets have everything you need).
For more ideas, go to our guide on how to keep the romance alive all year round.
Go On, Take a Risk
One of the keys to keeping the spark alive is to be courageous enough to try new things. Yes, this can mean being a bit more adventurous in the bedroom beyond your core-four positions. You don’t have to go all BSDM (unless you want) to liven it up though. It could be as simple as trying a couple different positions (reverse cowgirl, anyone?) or a new sex toy (maybe one for him!) or simply keeping the lights on.
It can also mean exploring and growing both individually and as a couple. If you’ve always wanted to take a pole dancing class, do it. Sign yourselves up for that chocolate-making class. Take that European vacation and don’t skip the topless beaches.
The bottom line: flirting is important for your intimacy and connection with your man. He’s the only person who gets to experience this side of you. Bringing a little of that woo and seduction back into your relationship is one of the best investments you can make in yourself and your life-long romance.